Nicholas threw his first tantrum last night. It seems yesterday he was this little fragile baby. Now he is this cute boy with a sweet smile that can win your heart in a second, however if he gets frustrated, that sweet smile goes away and what you get is only yelling and screaming that you can't believe that is the same child.
My hubby was very surprised with his behavior but I wasn't cause I knew soon or later tantrum would give us a visit as does to every parents house. That's what babies/toddlers do. They are learning to express their feelings and since they don't have the language yet to communicate they use what they know best: crying; however, it's our responsibility to teach him he can't throw tantrums to get what he wants. It's not acceptable. So we let him cry. He cried and screamed until he got tired and calmed him self down. Keith and I were very firm, "we'll not give in", but our hearts were aching. It hurt to watch it (since we're in a hotel, there is no other room to go) but we knew it was for his best. Then, after he got quiet, we went to pick him up... when he saw us, he started crying again. Keith gave him a bottle and we both talked to him, in a firm but calm voice explaining why we didn't pick him up before and that behavior was a "no no". It's interesting when we were talking he was calm and listening but when we were saying, "no you can't behave like that sweety", he would let a little cry as if he knew what he did was wrong. Then, we prayed with him, gave him a kiss, and put him into his crib. He slept with no complaints.
We don't know for sure if he understood what we did. I sure hope so. We'll probably have more situations like this until he fully understands that "Mom and Dad won't let me do or have what I want (if it's wrong) even if I throw a fit, but they still love me."
We don't know all the answers and how to deal with every problem we face as parents. But we choose to say no even if hurts him and us for his own good, with hope we're raising a healthy physically, spiritually, and emotionally boy to become one day a great man. Wow, what a wonderful and yet challenging job we have! I think that's what parenthood is all about.
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Thursday, June 23, 2011
Monday, June 20, 2011
Tuesday was my 30th birthday and we went to Disneyland!!!! I told Keith I want to do something fun and since we were planning on taking Nicholas to Disney before we leave CA we decided to go on my birthday. It was sooooo fun!!!! There were a lot of people and it was very hot but we still enjoyed our time there. Experience Disneyland through Nicholas' eyes was a wonderful gift for my birthday. He was so mesmerized by everything, specially at "It's a Small World". He was pointing at the toys and clapping with the song... it was so cute! Also he enjoyed riding "Dumbo". I wasn't sure if he was going to be scared or not but he was totally fine! Late at night we watched the fireworks show by the castle (always my favorite thing to do at Disney) and he looked like he was enchanted by it, pointing at the sky and smiling! He had so much fun that at the end of the day he was worn out! We went to the "Pirates of Caribbean" ride to close the night and totally forgot that it had a little fall that can splash some water. Nicholas fell in a deep sleep while we were waiting in line that when water splashed right on his head he didn't even move! I was so shocked that he didn't wake up that I kept checking to see he was okay and breathing (I know, what a paranoid mom, I think that is one of the motherhood's side effect for me :) Well, he was fine, but he was just very tired. When we were getting in the car to go home, he woke up for couple seconds in his car seat looked at us and just gave us the sweetest smile ever, spoke something in his own language and went back to sleep. In my heart, he said, "hey mom and dad, thanks so much for today, I had a blast!" hehehehe....
Here are some pics of the day!
Here are some pics of the day!
|Here he was doing a baby sign for milk!|
|Flirting with some girls....|
|taking a nap...|
|Dude, look at my hair, I'm cool!!!! Just woke up from his nap.|
|Flying with Dumbo...|
|He punched Mickey's nose...|
|Their fireworks show is one of the best that've seen! My fav thing to see!|
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Nicholas can't walk yet but he can sure climb! I have to keep an eye on him all the time. He is very curious as all kids are : ) It reminds me of the cartoon "The Curious George" that we watch in Spain (my fun way to learn a language is to watch cartoons).
My happy boy!
Bye mommy! I'm gonna take a nap now!
Nap time with his "blanky blanky"
Friday, June 3, 2011
We're back in USA for our Spanish visa process. It's been almost 2 weeks now and I already miss Spain! We didn't want to come back at all but we knew from the beginning that that was the plan.
We're staying in a hotel. We were planing to stay with some friends but at the end it didn't work out. But the hotel we're staying is quite nice actually. There is a small kitchen in it so we don't have to eat out everyday.
Nicholas as always is doing great! I gotta say I got a wonderful boy here! Sometimes I feel like this whole process has been harder on us than on him. He is always smiling and happy. Of course he gets cranky from time to time but overall he hasn't given us much trouble. I guess kids adapt easier than us.
I think the hardest thing in this whole crazy adventure is not knowing when we'll be back in Spain. The visa process is a long and not fun journey that must be faced with patience and faith. I think faith is what makes us patient! We know it's God's will for us to be in Spain so we just have to wait patiently for our visas.
So for now I try to look for the bright side. While we're here, I'm trying to hook up with old friends and looking forward to spend some quality time with our family in Ohio :)
And for my friends in Aguilas, os estrao mucho!!!!! Gracias por los mensajes preciosos!
And here are some pics from San Diego! Thanks Hellen and Geann for letting us stay with you guys!
Nicholas and Savannah looking good!
She is sooooooo cute that I wanna have a girl now!
We love San Diego beaches!